E-mailing the Lamas from Afar
Aro gTér lamas reply to the e-mail questions of their students, questions which concern the full range of the students' lies, from the fine points of Buddhist teachings to the nitty-gritty details of relationship, work, family life and interpersonal conflict. They demonstrate, through concrete examples, the unconditional applicability of Vajrayana Buddhist teachings and practice to all realms of experience.
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conceptual sausages
Shardröl Du-nyam Wangmo Apprentice I will try not to let concept consciousness get the better of me all the time.Lama Shardröl There’s nothing …
double rainbow
Shardröl Du-nyam Wangmo Apprentice What I would like to say, without disclaimers, at work lately – maybe more so or less so than …
courage
Nor’dzin Pamo & ’ö-Dzin Tridral Apprentice I have often felt concerned that I seem to be a timid person who likes to live safely. When …
dreaming
Nor’dzin Pamo Apprentice I have always had a suspicion that I may be just dreaming all this – to the point of …
the path is the goal
Nor’dzin Pamo & ’ö-Dzin Tridral Apprentice Something I seem to experience a lot is the two extremes of feeling really inspired and motivated and then …
watching
Nor’dzin Pamo & ’ö-Dzin Tridral Apprentice I found the solitary retreat very beneficial, and also the continuing mantras on the journey home was interesting. It …
Opening ourselves to the unlikely
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Apprentice I have read that, being in the Nyingma Tradition, we are in some way accident prone—that we are heirs …
The initial display
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Apprentice How I can relate with unsatisfactoriness without dwelling on it and becoming miserable?Lamas Relate with the initial display of …
Misery
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Apprentice I am wondering about what you said recently about ‘remaining free of the prison of moodiness’. Could you say …
Here’s another nice mess you’ve gotten me into
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice Rinpoche, I know you don’t like to answer questions in letters when the answer would be the length of …
They may as well have kissed Barney Rubble
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice The intellect seems to get a raw deal in our lineage.Ngak’chang Rinpoche That has more to do with Khandro …
Look back in ang-ra
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice When I look back over my life I sometimes feel overwhelmed by anger at things people have done to …
Sulkiness, sullenness, and surliness
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice In your last Vajra Letter, you mention that one must be able to ‘remain free of the prison of …
They spook from time to time
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice In your reply to my last letter you said that I should try to celebrate whenever obstacles arose, and …
Panic is not an option
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice Can you tell me what I can do when life gets too much? I sometimes feel as if I …
Great expectations
Khandro Déchen Apprentice I feel trapped by life—and I do not know how to apply Dharma to situations where I feel trapped. …
Depression is the postern
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Apprentice I do tend to get overwhelmed, and worry intensely about things . . .Khandro Déchen If you see this …
Worry is the mind’s attempt to stay safe
Khandro Déchen Apprentice Again and again lately, I have been reminded of the observation that when one strays from the natural state, …
Apologises for being English
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice I have had some awful misunderstandings with friends and people I like very much and I wonder if you …
Celebrate every aspect of each other
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Prospective apprentices You said that trust and respect are essential in relationship—could you say more about that—just so that we …
New York taxis and the world’s axis
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice I have never been at an apprentice retreat when there has been a teaching on the Celebration and what …
I am the last person you should trust
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice I am feeling as though I know nothing. Teachings used to make intellectual sense to me—or so I thought—but …
The technique could become a tourniquet
Khandro Déchen Prospective apprentice I am very interested in meditation techniques. Could you give me an example of meditation technique in your …
The malodorous security of last night’s curry
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Apprentice There is something a little irritating about shi-nè when I practise it properly—I mean when I don’t zone out …
Peace and quiet
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Prospective apprentice Can you suggest how I can best proceed with your teaching on meditation when it is almost impossible …
Insurance is not available
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice When I am practising shi-nè, does it matter if being uninvolved with my experience is only another form of …
Is that not dualistic?
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice Within the non-dual state, what happens with memories of things? Do you experience them? And if so is that …
The Little Buddha
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice I have been practicing shi-nè for a year now, and I swear it’s making me crazier rather than saner.Ngak’chang …
Drinking the wine of the situation
Ngak’chang Rinpoche Apprentice Rinpoche, you said that in the practice of shi-nè, when either physical pain or pleasure arises, I should merely …
“Here’s to boredom!”
Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen Apprentice You have often said that shi-nè is boring and that boredom is necessary in terms of experience. But what …Forthcoming events with Ngak’chang Rinpoche or Khandro Déchen:
Open Teaching: Roaring Silence
Discovering the Nature of the Mind
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Sat Jan. 25, 2025, 10AM UTC - 4PM UTC
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New Year's Zoom Retreat 2025 with Ngak’chang Rinpoche & Khandro Déchen.New York/New Jersey In-person only
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More pages by Ngak’chang Rinpoche or Khandro Déchen:
Embracing Emotions as the Path
Colours and Elements in Tantric Psychology
Empowerment and the four kayas
Empowerment & Transmission
Books by Ngak’chang Rinpoche or Khandro Déchen:
E-mailing the Lamas from Afar
Heart Advice from Two Buddhist Teachers to Their Students
Entering the Heart of the Sun and Moon
Goodbye Forever - Volume 1
Miscellaneous Memoirs of an English Lama